The new couple, whether they have known each other for long time or are new acquaintances; it will take some time to adapt to the new environment and new experience. Lots of anxiety will be among them. Many people ask the new couple a lot of unwanted questions. Friends also jokingly ask a lot of questions. Neighbors also tend to ask the newlyweds some questions. No matter what your relationship is with the newlyweds, there are some questions you can’t ask them. Let’s find out 7 questions.
- Stay together, or take a separate home
In a family with one son, usually the guardians of the family want the son to stay with them, the responsibility of the family is nick. So soon after marriage, many people become curious and want to know, ‘Together or apart?’ Some people go for good advice and say, ‘If you want to be separated, do it now. If more is mixed, there will be no escape. At the beginning of such conversation, a kind of crisis was created between the newlyweds. The couple is divided before the relationship is formed. The couple and the rest of the family became embroiled in a conflict. For future couples, it is best to discuss matters before marriage. There is no point in bringing these questions to the attention of the new couple and creating unnecessary conflict.
- How was the night?
The question is as indecent as it is disgusting to ask someone. It’s a private matter for the newlyweds. The one who answers this question unknowingly lightens his relationship with others. So avoiding this question is a sign of personality. Many times those who have a funny relationship with them, such as friends, brothers-in-law, grandparents, grandparents, great-grandparents — these people ask such questions. It is very inappropriate. Asking this question in front of multiple people in particular means throwing the new bride and groom directly into an embarrassing situation.
- When to take the baby
Many people think the question is important and moving forward with it. The elders think, just married, young age, just help them with a advice. They ask the question from this sense.
Not only ask the questions, they even encourage them to have kids early. This idea weakens the mind of the bride and groom as well as puts a kind of pressure on them. Some people are motivated by the words of others rather than making their own decisions and become interested in having children without understanding everything. One of the spouses may disagree, but the other agrees. This leads to deterioration of the relationship between them. In such cases, it is usually the wives who are most affected.
Every couple has their own plan. There, they discussed various issues of career, family, family and life and decided. So putting undue pressure on a couple by asking them questions like having children means that their relationship with you is deteriorating.
- Do you take care of you in laws ?
Anyone who asks such a question, he has a nefarious intention, you can think of it. Because the parents of a boy or a girl all suffer the same. Just as the boy’s parents work hard to raise him, so does the girl’s parents. At the same time, through this question, you gave a kind of stab to the parents of the bride and groom. Tried to explain, your parents are a burden to you now. It is the duty of every child to serve the elders. But asking the new wife this question means you think she can’t.
And think before you ask the new groom. Because, if the bride does not have a brother, it can be very stressful for her parents. The parents of the bride and groom can stay with them. This is very familiar in the culture of our country. So your question points to a problem that could complicate the new couple.
- What did brides family gave?
Girls are more likely to face this question. ‘How much jewelry did your father-in-law give you?’ ‘What did your parents give you?’ Asking such questions means belittling the one who invited you. So refrain from underestimating new relationships unnecessarily. It would be a mistake to assume that the financial position between the two families would be equal. If it is a marriage of love, then in arranged marriage also various issues are involved between the two families knowingly. So to ask such a question to the new wife means to make her family small. It also means asking the husband such questions in front of the wife but you are belittling his father-in-law. So don’t ask who gave what, but talk about the good aspects of the two families.
- Will you still work or will the groom work?
This question is very offensive. First of all, these issues should be resolved before marriage. It is unreasonable to raise this question if a working woman is brought as son’s wife. Because, this is the first time an important issue like not being allowed to work has come up, it is wrong to think so.
Many families want the son’s wife to work, to create a separate entity. They are happier if they get a job after studying hard. If the husband also has an objection, think that it has been settled before marriage. So raising this question anew means you are creating a confusion. If the family starts, the son’s wife will get a job, but they can’t accept that. The bride may have deliberately agreed to the marriage before the marriage. So do not ask this question to the new couple after marriage.
- Do you still remember your ex-boyfriend / girlfriend?
You may be asking such questions in private. Still, that’s not right. Because, when children at this time come out of a relationship, it means they want to erase it from the mind. And get involved in important relationships like marriage because you want to. This means he wants to forget the old and start anew. As a result, he is embarrassed by bringing the forgotten relationship to the fore. So it is inappropriate to hurt or confuse them by saying this.
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